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Bullying has reached epidemic proportions in today's society and while some schools, workplaces and governments are taking measures and attempting to curtail bullying, the sad reality is that bullying may often occur when there is no authority figure present to stop it and it may occur when and where there may be no witnesses to corroborate that it even occurred.
Bullying incidents are further exacerbated by bystanders who witness a bullying incident and take no action to intervene or help diffuse the situation and thus they become complicit in the bullying behavior through their inaction.
The unfortunate reality is that a child or an adult who is targeted by a bully may be the only person who can stop it and they often must face their antagonizer(s) alone and without help.
Even when the target of bullying summons the courage to stand up to a bully, they still need to possess the skills necessary to effectively deal with a bully.
Non violent conflict resolution skills may work in some cases to diffuse a bullying encounter; however, those skills may not work in others situations.
The better prepared one is to face a bully on whatever terms the bully brings to the confrontation, then the better one is equipped to bring a swift and favorable end to a bullying encounter.
Further compounding the challenges for those being bullied is the unfortunate reality that in some instances when a person who is being bullied takes necessary actions to stop the bullying, then the victim may be subject to the same punishment as the bully.
Schools, workplaces and public places may expel, suspend or arrest all parties involved in certain incidents. In some cases conceptually flawed and ineffective “zero tolerance” policies merely allow entities enforcing such policies to avoid analyzing the events that transpired leading up to the incident and by punishing all involved they avoid admitting what really happened on their watch and/or they avoid dealing with the underlying events that resulted in the incident. In the end the victim may be bullied AND get punished for taking action to stop it. What is wrong with this picture?
With proper training and preparation no one need suffer the actions of bullies and/or the ineptness or inaction of overseers or indifferent bystanders. Where there is preparation there is no fear.
Moo Duk Kwan® martial art schools certified by the nonprofit United States Soo Bahk Do Moo Duk Kwan Federation® teach the Soo Bahk Do® martial art system with an emphasis on developing personal safety awareness and skills to avoid conflict whenever possible and the skills necessary to prevail in a conflict when avoidance is not possible.
Help protect your child by empowering them to stand up for themselves, so they are not the subject of a video like the following:
For the location and date of a Bully Proof program near you call (888) 766-2245 or search here The call is free and the benefits are priceless. Sponsored by Members and Supporters of the nonprofit United States Soo Bahk Do Moo Duk Kwan Federation®
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By Becka Kurtz, Executive Secretary
Opportunity Manor Inc.
1908 Kruchten Court South
PO Box 280
Sartell, MN 56377
Martial arts training is said to improve physical functions such as strength, balance and stamina. More importantly, it has been proven to increase self worth, self esteem, confidence, independence and an overall improvement in quality of life.
Through Pathway to Opportunities (PTO) collaboration with the St. Cloud Soo Bahk Do Karate School and Master Bill Nelson, 2 of our consumers are shining examples of this. In August 2008 Dustin Potratz and James Klinkner of PTO were awarded their orange belts in the art of Soo Bahk Do.
The martial art of Soo Bahk Do forges the body towards gaining ultimate use of its faculties through intensive physical and mental training. It promotes a healthy and disciplined mind, strong personal character, and respect for life and nature. It also helps one achieve a mature attitude, as well as gives you the mental strength to find your full potential.
In 2007, PTO was fortunate to have Scott Ridlon teach self defense classes to our participants. After taking the class, Dustin and James showed further interest in martial arts and were given the recommendation to take classes from Bill Nelson, Master (sixth degree black belt) in Soo Bahk Do.
He then adapted his classes to fit the needs of our consumers. They began taking regular classes, continuing to increase their rank to the orange belt that they now hold.
Some of the things they have learned through these classes are basic techniques, strikes, kicks, basic form, round house kicks and knowledge of lower rank requirements. They were also able to break boards and spar.
Not only have they gained knowledge of the physical aspects of the art, they continue to gain self worth, confidence, and work toward independence.
Q: My teenager (daughter) is a Dan (black belt), but has lost interest in training. How can I inspire her to resume training in Soo Bahk Do® Moo Duk Kwan®?
A: The decision to train needs to be hers and parental pressure can be less effective with teenagers than it may be with very young children, so you may need to employ a creative parental strategy to discover what dampened her desire to train and/how you might inspire or support her to resume training.
The answer may be as simple as the teen years exposing your teenage daughter to other influences and interests that has pulled her attention elsewhere; however, you might consider having a non-pressuring conversation with your teenager in order to determine if anything unpleasant happened in her training that might have caused her desire or interest to wane.